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How to Learn from Criticism

How to Learn from Criticism

No matter how hard you try, it’s often difficult to hear any type of criticism. Many Mystics do receive Criticism from others that do not understand or agree. As well, many are Empaths or HSP’s (Highly Sensitive Person’s), and this makes it even more difficult to hear criticism. It can cause us to second guess ourselves, and worse, it might even make you stop doing whatever it was that you wanted to do. It might send you for a tailspin. But it doesn’t have to. In fact, most criticism can be turned into valuable feedback even if sometimes it feels like a very negative experience.

It’s Not Usually an Attack

Remember that most critique is not about attacking you. Even sometimes, when it is given negatively, there are often truths you can gather from it. You just have to let go of the emotion and even if you have to pretend it’s not an attack, analyze what the critique is without passion or emotion.

Listen Carefully Without Reacting

When the critique happens, either listen or read it without reacting. You want to take it all in and just listen for complete understanding. If it’s a conversation,
it’s okay to ask questions, but don’t interrupt. If you’re reading it, that’s usually easier, just read it and then let it rest for a bit.

Ask for Clarification

Once you have allowed yourself to understand as much as you can, you can now ask for clarification of things that you’re not sure about. Do it gently and carefully without sounding defensive.

Try Not to Take It Personally

Even if someone is trying to get under your skin with their critique, and usually they’re not, don’t take it personally. Often criticism is more about the person
delivering it than about you unless you have a mentor or coach giving you feedback.

Let Go of Things That Aren’t Factual

There is no point dickering about facts. Instead, focus on the meat of the critique at first. If the entire thing is not factual, you don’t even need to talk about it
with the person giving it because it’s not truth and has no relation to you. One tactic if someone is mad when they are giving you the feedback is to
mentally or physically delete anything that is not factual or is just mean then read or process the rest.

Say Thank You and Follow Up

When someone has taken the time to give you feedback, it’s vital that you thank them and follow up with them about it. Especially if you can tell them how it helped you improve something.

Getting feedback is an important part of improving yourself. If no one ever gives you any type of feedback that makes you uncomfortable, you may be hanging around with “yes” people instead of people who really want you to succeed. Consider hiring a life coach or finding a mentor who is willing to give you regular feedback that is honest, transparent, and upfront.

Criticism (Constructive) vs Bullying & Insulting

Now of course, we do come across those that are just flat out Bullying & Insulting, and all we can do with that is to Let It Go! It’s not up to you to change their mind or help them understand and typically, it’s only a waste of time and energy. Again, as a Mystic or Empath or HSP – we can take it very personally and want to defend our position or it can just drag us down in the emotional dump, but we have to recognize that it is NOT about US – it is About them. They are either unaware & uneducated in the area they are criticizing, or their cultural & social raising & environment has taught them a difference of opinion. A difference of opinion is fine, but when they turn it into judgement, bullying & insulting, then it’s time to just walk away & let it go. (**Unless there is any physical or online bullying – that should be addressed through the proper law & legal authorities)